Maycember Is a Scam (But the Kids Looked Cute at the Recital)
You Made It Through Maycember - But at What Cost?
Well, if you’re here reading this, congratulations—you survived Maycember! That deserves a gold medal, or at the very least, a quiet cup of coffee that no one makes you reheat three times.
I only recently heard the term Maycember. Maybe it’s been around for a while and I’m late to the party (wouldn’t be the first time), or maybe it’s a newer phrase that finally gave a name to what so many of us have been feeling. Either way, it instantly resonated with me.
Maycember: that magical time of year when May morphs into December-level chaos. Except instead of twinkly lights and cozy sweaters, we’re juggling end-of-year school tests, final projects, sports banquets, dance recitals, teacher gifts, and just an overall explosion of "lasts" and "finales"—all while trying to maintain some semblance of normal family life. Why is everything so crammed into the end of the school year?
It feels like a paradox. We’re trying to finish everything up, but somehow also manage to pile on more. Maybe it’s our way of celebrating. Maybe it’s because we want to honor how far our kids—and we—have come. Or maybe it’s just become the rhythm we’ve grown used to, without ever stopping to ask why we’re sprinting to the finish line of every season of life.
The other day, even my 12-year-old looked at me with bleary eyes and said, “I just need to finish strong, Mom. I can’t slow down yet.”
When your kid starts sounding like a motivational speaker on a deadline, you know we’re all drinking from the same cultural Kool-Aid.
And while I do find the term Maycember kind of funny and oddly validating, I also find myself questioning it. Why do we keep normalizing—and even celebrating—this frantic pace? Why do we laugh along and shrug as if burnout is just part of the parenting package?
I’ve been hearing something more and more in conversations with women lately: we want to live differently. We’re craving a slower way of doing things. We’re aching for less chaos and more connection. We want to be present—not in a buzzword way, but in a real, grounded, everyday way—with our families, our friends, our work, and ourselves.
But here’s the thing: it’s hard to slow down when every season seems to have its own version of Maycember. When even the “quiet months” are stacked with obligations or prep for the next busy stretch. There’s this unspoken rule that we must earn our rest by pushing through one more thing, doing just a little bit more, until we’ve finally “earned” the break that never actually comes.
Personally, I know I am craving a deep kind of rest.
Not just the "I need a nap" kind of rest, but a true restorative rest—the kind that reaches the soul and makes you remember who you are. And when I wake up from this restoration, I am claiming my own pace. I am done with the pushing and the forcing. I am already choosing a more truly feminine way of living. One rooted in wisdom, cycles, intuition, and trust. Which, honestly, feels like exactly what our world needs in order to heal.
I choose slow. I choose deliberate. I choose intentional. I choose more play and more flow.
And I offer you this same challenge: what are you choosing?
What if we challenged the rhythm that says we have to earn rest? What if instead of bracing for impact each season, we started asking: What can I let go of? What would it look like to build in rest, presence, joy—not as a reward, but as a way of life?
I don’t have all the answers. I’m still in the thick of it—still juggling schedules, trying to track who needs to be where, when, and with what gear, attitude, or emotional support snack. But I also know this: I’m allowed to question the pace. And so are you.
Here’s to all of us who made it through Maycember. Let’s not just recover—we deserve better. Let’s reimagine.
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