If you're leaning on every coping tool you've got right now — therapy, rest, movement, whatever you can find — I want you to know that's not a sign you're failing at regulation. It's a sign you're paying attention. There's a myth that healing means eventually needing less support. Sometimes it just means getting better at reaching for it. Whatever season you're in, you don't need to earn the right to use every tool available to you. You're allowed to use all of it.

When we don’t hold our boundaries… when we say “yes” but mean “no”… when we ignore that quiet inner voice, we often start to feel resentful. And what do we do? We blame the person who overstepped the boundary that we didn’t enforce.