Stop Searching Outside - Your Calm is Already Inside
What is YOUR Resource?
If you’re reading this and don’t know what I am talking about, let me break it down! I’m not talking about money or anything materialistic. We all have an internal resource, and I’m curious what yours is. It’s unique to each of us, and we get to pick or acknowledge it ourselves. No one else can tell you what your internal resource is.
If you have a few quiet moments, I want to invite you to pause. Close your eyes and take a breath. Feel the exhale. Take another breath and scan through your body — notice the first place that feels settled and calm. Just the first thing that comes to mind. Don’t overthink it. It could be your hands, your belly, your feet, or somewhere else entirely. It doesn’t matter — it’s yours. Take this resource and tuck it away in your memory for now. We’ll come back to it.
Even if you feel anxious or like there’s absolutely no calm in your body, start with whatever feels even the slightest bit calmer than anything else. It might be tiny — a flicker of warmth in your hands, a subtle softening in your belly — but that small spark is enough to begin practicing internal resourcing.
So often, we are taught to rely on things outside of ourselves to soothe our inner world. What I’m talking about here is when we use other people or things to stabilize or comfort ourselves — not as a conscious practice, but as a learned coping habit. Most of us weren’t taught growing up how to rely on our own inner being to settle, ground, and soothe ourselves. Our culture subtly teaches that we don’t have the answers, that everyone else knows better than we do. We are constantly searching for something outside of ourselves to fix or soothe us: the pill, the drink, the food, the person — anything but our own inner being. We’ve all been there.
Internal resourcing is different.
It’s the practice of tuning into a calm, steady place within your own body and mind — that spot you just noticed, whether your hands, your belly, or your feet. Returning to it helps you build stability, grounding, and self-trust that nothing outside of you can truly give. Your internal resource may change from day to day, or it may remain a steady place of calm. At first, you might need to check in with it daily, or even several times a day. Over time, sensing and trusting it will become more natural and effortless. You won’t always need to make a big deal of it — living with your inner being will just become second nature.
Because we are not just our bodies. We are also — and even more so — our inner being. And within that inner being lies a source of calm, strength, and stability that is always accessible if we just pause, tune in, and remember it.
Ready to Experience Your Internal Resource Right Now?
You've identified that calm place within your body - now let's deepen that connection. Internal resourcing isn't just a concept; it's a practice that becomes more powerful the more you use it.
Watch: Internal Resourcing: Find Your Inner Calm in 5 Minutes (Used by Therapists Worldwide)
In this guided video, I'll walk you through the exact internal resourcing technique that somatic therapists, EMDR practitioners, and trauma specialists use with clients worldwide. You'll learn how to do a proper body scan, identify your unique calm place, and "pocket" that resource so you can access it throughout your day.
This is the same practice I use at the beginning of every client session - because when you know you have a safe place to return to within yourself, you can navigate life's challenges with more stability and less fear.
Your inner calm isn't something you have to create or earn. It's already there, waiting for you to remember it exists.
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