When You Finally Choose Peace Over Keeping the Peace
Lately, it feels like so many people are in a season of falling apart
Jobs, relationships, identities, the way things used to be.
I wrote this as a love note to the version of you who’s standing in the rubble, wondering what comes next.
On this day, nine years ago, I stepped out of my old life and into a new one. I didn’t know what that would look like, or even that’s what I was doing. I only knew something had to change.
At the time, my kids were 4 and 7. I packed an overnight bag, told them we were taking a little mini vacation, and drove a couple of hours south. The truth is, I had been thinking about leaving for years… contemplating, struggling, doubting. But that morning something inside me broke for good. As stressed, overwhelmed, insecure, and frightened as I was, I knew I had to do something different. For them. For me.
It wasn’t a decision anymore, it was instinct.
I had to break the cycle. I didn’t know what was ahead, but I knew I couldn’t stay where I was. I often think of my daughter in those moments, but now I see it was equally for my son. Divorce gets such a bad rap, but to me it is strong and noble. It was the hardest, most profound thing I’ve ever done. Even now, I’m still dealing with the fallout - there’s always someone mad at me. But I can live with that. What I couldn’t live with was the alternative.
When I look back, I see that woman so clearly. She had lost herself, was exhausted, and didn’t want this to be her story. She tried everything she could to prevent it. And yet, somehow, she found the strength to pack up and go. I have so much compassion for her now.
Today, I celebrate her. I honor the courage it took to make that choice, the work she did along the way, and the endless work she’s done since. She’s not finished (who ever is?), but she’s no longer afraid. She knows she can do anything.
If you’re in that place where things are cracking open (where the life you built doesn’t fit anymore) maybe this is your moment, too.
Maybe peace isn’t something you find; maybe it’s something you choose, again and again, even when it costs you your comfort.
So today, I celebrate you. The woman who’s breaking cycles, walking away from what hurts, or simply learning to listen to herself again.
You are not alone in this.
We’re all finding our way back home to peace, one brave choice at a time.
Ready to Release What You've Been Holding In?
If you've been keeping the peace at the expense of your own voice, your body has been holding that tension—especially in your jaw and throat.
Watch: Find Your Voice Again - Simple Jaw Release for Throat Tension & Self-Expression
This gentle 5-minute somatic practice helps you release the physical tension that comes from holding everything together, clenching your jaw, and keeping it all inside. Through simple jaw movements and safe vocal release, you'll begin to reconnect with your authentic voice and expression.
You weren't meant to keep it all in. You weren't meant to hold it all together alone.
Sometimes finding your voice starts with releasing your jaw. Sometimes choosing peace means finally letting yourself make sound.
**If you're in a season of choosing yourself, I'd love to hear from you. What are you finally ready to release? Share in the comments below.
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